Sunday, October 18, 2015

Fall Cruises 2015

I know I mentioned I wasn't going to attend any more car club meets in parking lots and what not, because of my bad experiences with weird people.

However, going on a car cruise with your loved ones especially during the fall season is a must.

I like colourful things. And that includes pretty leaves. When you drive through a scenic route with leaves changing colours, it's the most beautiful thing to witness (aside from seeing a bride walk down the aisle).

This fall, I had the honour to go on 3 different cruises with others who are passionate about fast cars. The latest one I was shot gun so I did my best to take some scenic pictures, and also some shots of cars. The route took us through and around Caledon, and we were able to get some leaves transitioning into the fall colours. Ooo so pretty!











So then we entered the Forks of the Credit. A small town with some twisty roads. Unfortunately people take advantage of it and speed through, so there are speed traps there.






We ended the cruise with a brief photo shoot session. And of course, stopping local traffic just because we are more awesome than the Blue Jays (or any Toronto team as a matter of fact).



Looking forward to seeing what 2016 will bring us!

Friday, October 16, 2015

Life is Amazing. Stress Isn't.

Everybody experiences stress at various stages of life. It can be a small amount, or huge, or a daily issue. But what really goes on when stress occurs? What happens to your body when you undergo stress? And what happens if it's a daily occurrence?

You know that saying "Stress kills"? Yeah, it really does. When you let stress get to you, it will break down your entire system. Just like if you keep pushing your car to its limits, eventually something will break. And it doesn't have to be a huge component, but it always starts with something small, and work its way to something much bigger.

When you look at the anatomy and physiology of the human body, it is amazing, yet complex. You see how the body was designed for purpose, how we are an amazing reflection of our awesome Creator, our God and our Saviour Jesus Christ. To me, it doesn't make sense that humans evolve from nothing. You can't leave chance to create a design, and for a purpose. We are all taught in school about evolution and the big bang theory and it is the only acceptable "science", but the topic of creation is considered "religion" and therefore banned from classrooms. If you think about it, evolution is a religion as well. It's called Athiesm. So for schools to be saying they don't teach religion and are not allowed, they are contradicting themselves. But that's another post for another day.

When I was about 13 years old, I accepted Christ into my life. Not because the church told me to. Not because my parents told me to. Not because my friends told me to. It was a few things combined actually. I had basic understanding of anatomy and physiology at that time, and biology was my favourite topic. I learned the basics of what a cell was, and memorized it, but really had no clue why I was doing it. I was memorizing all these things because that was part of the education system. And if I didn't do well, then I would fail school. Other than those two things, there really was no purpose.  It wasn't until my brother started teaching me the purpose of life. And when you can understand the purpose of life, everything starts to open up and make sense.

Anatomy and physiology, biology and chemistry, as confusing and annoying as they are, they serve a huge purpose in understanding the complexity of life. When you can see how everything works, and why they work, you start to see and understand that God is not just some fairy tale made up story. He did this for a purpose: to have a continuous relationship with His children. You see, you are a reflection of who God is. We will never be God, but our thoughts, feelings, actions, knowledge...they are a reflection of Him.

Human anatomy is very complex. And all systems serve its own purpose. What is amazing is all those systems compliment each other. So if one system fails, you have another system that compensates. Big bang theory or the evolution theory will not teach you that or explain why it does that. It just basically states life evolved from a big bang, which resulted in a cell. But when you really look at the anatomy of a cell, it is very complex. It's not something basic.

Let's look at something that all of us deal with on a daily basis: stress.

When we deal with a stressful situation, our body has what we call a "fight or flight" response. Sounds simple, but what goes on inside our bodies at that given moment goes faster than the speed of light.

The eyes and ears (along with your other sensors like fingers, toes..i.e your skin) send a signal to your brain. Your brain consists of a centre called the amygdala. Amygdala interprets the signal, and if it senses danger, it will send a signal to the hypothalamus.

The hypothalamus is like the control centre of a ship or a plane. It is here where the brain communicates to the rest of the body via a system called the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). The ANS controls involuntary body functions such as increased heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, and dilation or constriction of blood vessels. The ANS further divides into two more systems: Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) and the Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS).

The SNS functions as the fight or flight response when it gets the danger signal. The PNS acts as the "slow down" response, or when the danger has passed. As Harvard Health puts it, it's like the gas and brake pedal of a car.

Once the hypothalamus activates the ANS system, it also sends a signal to the adrenal glands. The adrenal glands is where epinepherine is released into the blood stream (i.e adrenaline). This is where the physiological changes begin: blood pressure increases, heart rate increases, breathing increases, vasoconstriction occurs, your senses (hearing, visual) become more alert, more blood flow goes to all your vital organs. Epinepherine also triggers the release of blood sugar (or glucose) and fats from temporary storage into the bloodstream. This is to provide energy for the body while it's undergoing the stress response.

If the situation remains dangerous or very stressful, cortisol is released by the adrenal glands. This is to keep the body on high alert.

And all this occurs faster than the speed of light.

With prolonged stress or chronic stress, it is detrimental to one's health. The constant release of epinepherine can result in damaged blood vessels and arteries, resulting in increased risk of stroke or heart attacks. You can start to feel chest pain, or angina, because of the changes in the blood vessels due to chronic stress. High levels of cortisol results in increased appetite. This is why some people eat a lot when they are stressed, because of the high levels of cortisol in the blood stream, which leads to weight gain and obesity. That in itself leads to many health problems: hypertension, diabetes, athlerosclerosis, lipidemia, high cholesterol (to name a few), and thus if uncontrolled, can lead to kidney failure.

This is just a glimpse into one of the "basic" systems of the human body. I say "basic" because people think it's easy, but it really isn't all that basic or easy when you start to understand the anatomy behind it. It's not just one individual system, but all systems of the human body are intertwined. They compliment each other, and if one fails, it will affect the others. The others can only do so much to compensate before the entire body collapses.

Stress kills, yes it does. But we cannot let stress take over our lives. We have to start by looking after ourselves too. There are many ways to counter stress and it all comes down to whether we put our minds to make a change: our diet, our breathing exercises, yoga, physical exercise, removing stressors from our lives, having quiet time, finding good balance in our busy lives, getting enough rest and sleep, having great relationships with family and friends. All the little bits here and there help make a bigger positive picture.

And this is why I am amazed at life and how complex life is. I am amazed that God is not just some fairy tale person that you read to your kids before bedtime. He is real, He is here with us, and we are a mere reflection of who He is. It is up to us whether we want to get to know Him more in our lives or not. Everyone has their own ways of accepting Christ. For me, it was the topic of biology and anatomy/physiology of the human body that really awed me. Maybe not everything will make sense in life, but it's enough to convince me that God is real.

Sunday, October 11, 2015

PSA: Fraudster

This is a public service announcement post about a fraudster in the GTA car community.

I met this guy back in August 2014.

He seemed nice and all at first, buying me stuff I didn't ask him to buy, as a way to show he cares. But no one buys expensive things when you first meet. People thought it was strange that it was happening but they said "as long as you're happy".

I guess at first I was, because it was sort of nice to get showered with stuff, but it was not in my character for people to shower me with random gifts. So it was awkward.

Then I saw the real side of him. The pathological liar and manipulator.

Not only did he lie and try to scam 4 of my friends whom he barely knew, but he was lying to them about everything. When you lie to my friends, especially those that I have known for a very long time, you basically lie to me. And I don't like that. I'm a loyal friend who will call you out when I find out. Seemed like he was trying to destroy my friendships.

He had my front lip and side skirts as he offered to get it fixed and repainted. The front lip and side skirts were bought by me and paid for. It has been over 6 months now and I still have neither. I have asked for it back via FB, Whatsapp, text, and calling over the months but each time it was:
1) I'm in Jersey
2) I'm in Chicago
3) my grandpa fell on the ground and I gotta send him to ER
4) I'm not feeling well
5) I'm at the doctor's
6) my grandma can't breathe
7) I sent my mom to the ER because she isn't feeling well
8) I overslept

As you can tell, a variety of excuses. My favourite is the medical ones because it's like the entire family has taken over the Emergency Department in one day.

Then when I asked again, he said he threw them out and bought me new ones. WHO THE HELL BUYS NEW PARTS FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER ASKED FOR THEM? This is not a matter of trying to be nice to someone. This is now making that person pay for parts that they never asked for, on top of paying for paint. This is the part that got me very mad, because if other people don't know about it, they will get screwed over.

And then of course a month later he says they are my original parts. So which is true? You end up not believing anything.

In the car community, he is active in the GTR forums (Battalion30Five etc), VQ Nation (G35/37) and GTA Motorheads (variety), and was trying to get into the Genesis community. He will also pretend to have access to good prices in anything else, like purses. Beware of him if you decide to do business with him. Whether buying parts, ECU tuning, motor build etc. Doesn't matter what he tells you or if he appears knowledgeable in everything. Once you give your money to him, you will either 1) not see it again 2) not see your parts 3) not see either again forever, or for a very long time.

If he has worked on your car before (and for free), you will be ok for a while, but then your car will start breaking down one by one. Ultimately in the end, you will be the one having to pay for all the parts and damages on the car. He will start making excuses to not fix it, or delay in fixing it, and you will have no choice except to go to an independent shop, and spend an arm and a leg (maybe a kidney, and part of your liver) fixing the problems he caused.

People have dealt with him before, whether in person or online, and found that he was lying about everything. Unfortunately a lot of people have also lost money because of him and are continuously pursuing to get money back. This isn't just $50 he owes to people, but rather in the thousands.

He makes fake promises on building your motor, getting you the best parts in town, all for a reasonable price. In reality, he doesn't have it. If he demands a payment or deposit upfront, don't pay him. A receipt is never issued, so you won't have proof he took your money. And that's the thing, if he has gained your trust, he won't issue a receipt. Because you trust that he will get the parts in. But don't trust anybody in business. Any transaction that is done, you demand a receipt.

He doesn't have any social skills. He buys things to impress people with money he doesn't have. You can't buy friendship or love with material things. This is not a proper way to make friends. Considering a lot of people have been scammed by him, you can tell he does this for a living. A mastermind in manipulation, lying and making lots of excuses.

LADIES: BEWARE! He will try to act all nice to you, buy you all the nice things in life (pretends that he buys them but in reality, it's his mother's money he uses), and once he gains your trust and you invite him into your life, you are basically screwed because YOU will be the one paying for all living expenses, because he doesn't work. By the way, if you date him, you will not be the only girl that he has on his side. He's a chronic liar and a cheater.

The best part is if he can't handle you, he will get his mom to do it for him. So instead of dealing with him, you will be dealing with his mother. This is a guy who is mid 30's, telling his mom to clean up after him. Unless you want to go that route, I suggest you not start any business with him.

When things are too good to be true, believe your gut feeling that things won't be right.



You're welcome.

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

Drunk Driving. Not Acceptable!

How many of you know someone who thinks they're so macho that after a few drinks, they say they are ok to drive home? Whether it's at a party, or a club or whatever. I'm sure all of us know at least 1 person in our lives who did or does that at least once a week. Or maybe we all did that once and that was it. Never again.

Unfortunately, sometimes that one time could be the last time for the rest of your life.

There have been many sad stories about drinking and driving accidents, but this one hit close to home. This family is a relative of a friend of mine who I went to school with. She has lost her uncle and her 3 cousins from a drunk driver.

Neville-Lake tragedy

On September 27 just after 4pm, the Neville-Lake family was driving from King City to Brampton when their van was T-boned by a SUV driven by an intoxicated driver, Marco Muzzo. Muzzo was coming back from his stag party.

The van's driver, Gary Neville was killed instantly. His grandson, Daniel (9 years old) died later in hospital. His other grandson and granddaughter, Harry (5) and Millie (2) died shortly after midnight at the Hospital for Sick Kids. The children's grandmother and great-grandmother were transported to hospital with serious injuries but are recovering.

The parents of the 3 children are devastated. They only found out about the accident when the mother, Jennifer, turned on the TV and saw the accident scene. Her father (Gary) was already an hour late in dropping off her kids. Jennifer had called her parents' cell phone but no one was picking up. That's when she turned on the TV and recognized her van.

While in hospital, Harry and Millie were unresponsive. The only thing keeping their little hearts beating and them breathing were the ICU machines. The doctors and nurses had put their beds together, so the parents could lay there and say goodbye. Just after midnight, both children succumbed to their injuries. They passed away holding hands, with their parents beside them.

This is the worst nightmare for any parent to experience.

One intoxicated driver has taken the lives of 3 children and 1 adult.

Muzzo comes from a very wealthy family, with an estate worth over $1.1 billion. I have a feeling that justice will NOT be fair because of the wealth. Because we can see that those who are super wealthy can get away with anything. He has expressed remorse on what he did, but has not said much in terms of whether he will plead guilty or not guilty for driving under the influence.

He has had 7 previous driving convictions, ranging from talking on a cellphone while driving to speeding. Yet he is still driving. Those are not criminal convictions, but depending what the moving violation tickets are, all he has to do is pay them. And of course his insurance would go up. But as part of a billionaire family, who cares? Sure, your insurance rate will be a lot higher than the rest of your friends, but hey your inheritance can pay for it.

Muzzo is facing 18 charges including 4 counts of impaired driving causing death.

I see two issues with this case. One is about how wealth can be a huge influence, and the second is how our law still does not see drinking and driving as a serious offence. So the final conviction will not be a 25 year sentence to life imprisonment.

Here is a second example.

Wijeratnes family shattered

On August 5, 2012, the Wijeratnes family of 3 was driving back from Florida to Toronto when a car was speeding down the wrong way on Highway 427, driven by Sabastian Prosa. Prosa's car slammed head on with the Wijeratnes' car. Jayanatha and his daughter Eleesha were killed. Antonette was hospitalized and recovered. Prosa had been out drinking that night and was found to be intoxicated.

His conviction? 5 years in prison and 8 years banned from driving. The verdict was reached today.

Many people would read this and think what the hell is wrong with our law and society today. Even us citizens, we don't know what the hell is wrong with our own law.

We have MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving). We have RIDE spot checks and programs. We have constant messages and ads everywhere saying to take a taxi, call a friend or take the transit when we drink. To drink responsibly and be responsible. Yet people still drink and drive and shatter families. Why is that?

In the end, it's all about the law and the convictions. If the law for drinking and driving was as serious as murder, I don't think people would try to attempt to play with the law. People see the drinking and driving law as a slap on the wrist, because it really is just a slap on the wrist.

Yes people still murder people everyday. Sometimes it's a harsh penalty, and sometimes it's not. But it doesn't make it right to murder in the first place. That's why there is a law; to have some order in society. If there was no order, it would result in chaos.

People may say, well murderers have the intent to murder others. But drunk drivers only have the intent to drive home alive, not kill people. Sure, but if you have the intent to kill someone, that's first degree. If you have the intent to drive home intoxicated but cut someone's life short by accident along the way, that's manslaughter in the form of "impaired driving causing death" category. Either way, it's still a criminal offence. It's just one carries a maximum of life imprisonment, and the other is 14 years.

We see the consequences of drinking and driving and how it could shatter many lives. Yet people do it on a daily or weekly basis. Because we think we are above the law. We are macho enough to defeat alcohol and still force ourselves to drive. We want to prove to others that we can tolerate alcohol. That it's not a drug.

Please. A liquid, powder or pill that can alter your state of mind and judgement is considered a drug. Alcohol is a drug, whether you accept it or not.

So before you get into your vehicle after a wild night of partying and drinking, think about the lives you could cut short if you lost control. A vehicle becomes a weapon and can ultimately kill someone. Who cares if you have to pay extra for a parking ticket overnight, or if your car got towed. Those are all material things. Lives cannot be bought or replaced. If you can't pay for it, then you shouldn't even be partying in the first place. If you can pay for a night of drinking alcohol, you can pay for a parking ticket and you can pay for a taxi home.

The two mothers above will never get back their spouses or kids/grandkids ever again. Because of the irresponsible actions from two people who decided driving drunk was a good idea. Of the stories I've read, it seems that 98% of drunk drivers escape injuries and walk out fine from the accidents they caused, while they shatter other people's lives.

So yes, a harsher penalty and a change in drunk driving laws need to be done. Because right now, drunk drivers are walking free from their selfish acts.