I can't believe it's been 3 years since hubby and I first started going out. Honestly, the past 3 years have flown by so fast. There's a post I found on IG that pretty much sums up how I've felt since we started going out:
Turns out the honeymoon phase lasts forever when you don't date a f*cking loser.
I don't want to be condescending to my past that they were all losers (ok, maybe some of them), but every past gives you life experience. You learn about what you like and don't like in a life partner, what you can tolerate, and not tolerate. You grow as a person. You take what you've learned and apply it to your everyday life.
If you have read my previous posts about love, you probably remember why this relationship is so much different than my previous ones. It's not because of some high school crush, or that they had an awesome car (hey BMW, I still love you, but not as much as him - sorry not sorry), but it's the way I am treated with love, with respect and most importantly: accepting my weird self.
When I look back to our previous years of the "talking stage", I can't really tell you exactly when we first started talking. We talked years prior, but again, it was more of a respective colleague type of conversations. But I do recall us talking a bit more about the fall of 2022. Sharing car pictures and random life updates, working as a great team on the unit, having bubble tea with our other friends. I didn't think too much of it until May 2023 when things really started taking off.
There has been so much that has happened in the past 3 years, where it tested out our love for each other. I'm sure there will be more challenges up ahead, but that is all part of life. It wasn't easy, especially in the beginning where we each had this perception of each other in our heads. The fear of saying something that would hurt the other. We have taught each other a lot, embraced our mistakes, apologized and made up, and we still continue to grow together. I think the biggest one of all is that he makes me feel safe, no matter what. It's not just protecting me from random strangers or falling items (yes, throwback to the PTN event when the backboard at the dealership almost fell on our heads but he had the greatest ninja reflex to see it from his peripherals), but the everyday occurrence that if something had bothered me at work, or my deepest darkest thoughts that randomly hit me, I could tell him and not be judged for it. This goes for the same vice versa. Just showing up for each other, and being there for each other really makes the bond so much stronger and different.
Things that were lacking in my past - it was finally all being shown to me at last. I wish I could explain and put it into words but I'm just so happy that I could giggle like a kid in a candy shop.
Although things have been quite hectic this year and we didn't get to go on our annual anniversary trip, one thing's for sure: I don't really care where we go, or if we stay home - all I know is I'm super grateful to have him.
Happy 3 years Anniversary babe :)
Ladies, if you got yourself a good man, embrace him. Appreciate him. Don't be stupid and think the grass is always greener on the other side - if anything, that is the biggest downfall.
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